Happy nearly August, Successfully-Single readers!!! It’s been an eventful month in my world and equally for my friends! I’d like to take the opportunity to show those friends some mad respect!
To my sisters from other misters, I’d like to say, “Thank you for being inspirations to me!” As I navigate through 2018, I am realizing the importance of the presence of brave, powerful, feminine energy in my life! Perhaps the absence of my mom here on Earth is an influence on this feeling, but I think the presence of some amazing woman contribute as well! With the risk of sounding like a broken record, life is so full of ups and downs, we need to arm ourselves with a team of supportive people on our side.
In my last blog about honesty in relationships and sex, I expressed the desire to find love while staying honest and true to myself along the way. I think an equally notable part of being honest with ourselves and our partners, is being brave! Oprah Winfrey said, “You cant be 100% committed to someone without being vulnerable to them.” I think dating takes bravery, and bravery takes vulnerability.
Last month I had a whirlwind romance that felt exactly like what I’ve been waiting and looking for. It felt like love at first sight, the end of first dates, and the beginning of forever. (I think it’s safe to say I’m a romantic… ) In the midst of butterflies and sunshine, I distinctly remember a moment when my logical self said, “Slow it down. Things that start this fast always end this fast,” but, who am I to fight the universe?!? So I bravely and purposefully stepped whole-heartedly into new love.
Dr Brene Brown, researcher and psychologist, said, “Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of Courage.”
Take a moment to breathe that in. “Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of Courage.”
Dating and love take a lot of courage. I see it in my friends. I feel it in myself. My new love story took a major halt and perhaps the novelette is over, but I have not a single regret. Details aside, I’m proud I continue to be brave along my journey. I am not the only one of my friends practicing vulnerability and bravery daily, and I wanted to share my experience and research to honor their courage as well.
So today, I challenge you to find a place of vulnerability and see how it helps you grow. Whether it is sharing a story, asking for help, taking a risk, going on the first date, etc… only you will know, and only you will be able to measure your courage along the way. Love.